Those Un-biological Sisters and Brothers.

Who are the most important people in your life?

Family is first and foremost. Family is extremely important. Family is an integral part of your heart.

After family, you have friends.Whether or not you realise it, friends form a part of your family too. They’re just not biologically related to you, but if someone’s your good friend, you treat them like they were a part of your family.

Best Friends ❤

Then come along those people who just ‘click’ with you. You don’t know exactly when you got to know each other well, you just do. You trust them, they trust you. You cry or laugh with them, they cry or laugh with you.

When something is wrong, you’ll go running to them. They can calm you down and comfort you like nobody’s business.

She’s my person. If I ever murdered someone, she’s the one I’d call to help me drag the corpse across the living room. She’s my person. – Cristina, Grey’s Anatomy.

(Disclaimer: No murderer is on the loose and no murder is about to happen. Just quoting a TV show character. :))

Best friends are those people to whom you give absolute power to destroy you, trusting them not to. They are the people with whom you can be absolutely yourself.

  • Best friends want to be around you because you’re you. They accept you for who you are and don’t judge you unnecessarily. They love you the way you are and any vulnerabilities or quirks that come along with you don’t bother them. They’ll embrace your silly insecurities and they’ll laugh off your crazy antics, if not join in them.

You. And Them.

  • Best friends don’t let you do crazy things….alone. We’re all crazy in our own ways, aren’t we? The point being, if the crazy things we do aren’t irrational or illogical in such a way that it could end up hurting someone, best friends join in the fun. You only say a word about writing a thank you letter to the Mayans for inventing chocolate, and in two seconds flat – BAM! – they have the whole plan written down.

Sometimes they are also the ones giving you the ideas in the first place….

  • Best friends will always be there for you. No matter what time it is, or what they’re doing at the moment, best friends will always be there to listen to you. And sometimes, all you need is to pour it all out to someone. They’ll be there not only when it’s convenient, but when it’s extremely inconvenient.

Listen…

  • Best friends will always stand up for you. No one cares more than a best friend. No matter what, they’ll fight for you. Help you back up. Stand behind you the whole way. And when you get nervous, and you want to look back, you’re going to turn around and look at their face instead. They’ll be screaming, “What’re you doing? Turn around and walk forward!”
  • Best friends find it fun to tease you and annoy you. They’re going to be the ones always cracking jokes at your expense and making fun of you. They’re going to find it fun. And you’re going to be okay with it. You’re going to be completely fine when your best friend does nothing but annoy you and tease you. You’re going to laugh with them when they laugh at you. (Because we all know we’re weird that way.)

Best friends…(shakes head)

  • Best friends fight with you and joke with you within 3 minutes. You’ll have these huge fall outs – so huge that you’re convinced they’re never going to speak to you again. And within the next three minutes, you’re both joking around again, as close as ever, having forgotten the silly little issue that caused the fight in the first place.
  • Best friends are your un-biological siblings. They act like your sibling and think of you as theirs. You’re as close to them as you would be to your sister or brother. You pick on them (in my case, get picked on by them :D) and joke with them, but you’re also there for them when they need you. They do the same for you.

🙂 All best friends need a thank you, don’t they?

Yes, I learnt all this from my best friend. This was inspired by a Daily Prompt some time back, but I was perfecting it, just because I’m a perfectionist.

The Prompt was: BFF’s: “What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned from the person you’re the closest to?”

My Answer is: Who a Best Friend is – An Un-biological Sibling.

Catch you later!

Niru ❤

What It Means To ‘Lose.’

Look around you.

What do you see? Who do you see?

Right. We’re always around people. Family, friends, acquaintances, strangers.  Teachers, colleagues, fellow students. The friends you have, and the friends you haven’t met yet.

“Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” said Richard Bach.

There are a lot of people around you, but only some who you choose to let in. Some of us have a hard time doing that. Others, not so much. But we all have people whom we trust and those who we confide in. What happens when they drift away? What happens when you lose them?

I’m going to tell you how this speech was triggered in me. It was a usual evening, and my little brother was attempting to do his homework. And like all little boys, he was struggling to find a good enough excuse to skip completing it.

“Ma! I lost my pencil case!”

I lost my pencil case…

At that time, they didn’t seem like really powerful words, or those that would leave an impression, but for some reason, those words kept echoing in the back of my mind. “Is it really losing?” I ended up asking myself. I mean, there are so many different interpretations and meanings of the word lose. It’s become a term we all use really loosely. If you ask someone else that question, they’ll simply nod their heads and move on. If you look it up in the dictionary, it’ll say, “to be deprived of or cease to have or retain (something).” If you ask me, I’ll say, “No.”

It is not losing. Most definitely not.  Losing has such a deeper meaning. Losing is when something or someone special to you is no longer a part of your life. A ‘lost’ pencil case is not lost. It is merely misplaced. Why do you want to use the word ‘lost’ when you can use ‘misplaced’ instead?

This is a common misconception that is becoming prevalent in society. We don’t look at the value of anything much anymore. Really. Think about it. Think about all the times you’ve said that you’ve lost something. A book? A pencil? Your headphones? Your temper? Probably.  But did it really mean anything? Probably not.

Have any of us ever stopped to think that there are people out there who are saying, “I lost someone.”? People out there are losing people. Losing a valuable presence in their life. Losing their trusted confidant. They are the ones who have gone through a loss. They are the ones who know what it really feels like. They are the real survivors of the painful phenomenon that is losing.

There is but one hallmark to distinguish losing from misplacing. Losing someone or something is accompanied with a lot of pain. It hurts tremendously. It feels like your heart’s being ripped right out. That’s when you can say you lost something.

Not when you misplace your book. Not when you misplace your pencil. Not when you misplace your headphones.

You can’t equate the value of the things you misplace to the value of the things or people you lose.

Because it hurts. 

Catch you later!

Niru ❤

Snowy vacation in the Adirondacks

I love owls. I love snow. This post is so beautiful that I had to share. 😀

Into the wild

_MGL1730While vacationing with my family in the northern New York area and given this year incredible Snowy Owl irruption, I took some time to explore around the beautiful Adirondack Mountains. The kids wanted snow and I wanted Snowies : this would turn to be a perfect match.

Guided by Joan Collins, we planned a brief introductory drive trough it’s communities, habitats and natural treasures. You could spend a lifetime exploring the natural wonders of the Adirondacks but in a place like this, even in a few days, beautiful visions emerge. Joan is the most enthusiastic person I have ever met when it comes to birds. She is knowledgable, patient and cares a great deal about the well-being of birds. She also has a prodigious ear and can identify a bird call in the most extreme conditions.

I had seen the Snowy Owls back in 2011 in Barrow, but coming face to…

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5 Things I Learnt From A Paper Cut.

It was a perfect evening.

The perfect ending to a perfect day…or so I thought.

Then….

Oh…The pain! The PAIN! 😦

I got a paper cut.

Everything was simply wonderful. I was just organising my otherwise extremely cluttered desk. A loose sheet of paper just happened to be lying about within a bundle of other random sheets. It just happened to target my finger. I just happened to get a paper cut. 

An extremely painful paper cut, I might add. After a whole lot of wincing and moans of absolute agony, I sat back and reflected on those five minutes. I realised that I had learnt more important lessons in those minutes than I had in my day to day life.

1. Never underestimate.

It’s just a sheet of paper, isn’t it? How much harm could it cause? Newsflash! – it feels like a lightning bolt has passed through your body while an elephant was stomping all over you when it inflicts a paper cut on you. It’s something I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy.

It’s very easy to judge.

He should have done it this way, she should have done it that way. Until you put yourself in that position though, you will never really understand. Appearances are often deceptive. You can go around with your head held up high and someone’s going to kick you in the shin to take you down. Don’t let yourself fall for it. Never underestimate what a person can do to you. You have no idea.

2. It’s the littlest things that hurt the most.

That paper cut is practically nothing when you look at it – nothing, that is, but a superficial wound that just caused you to experience tremendous throbbing pain that you can’t even begin to explain. (Sarcasm intended.)

Everyone has gone through this sometime or the other. When a few words or a simple action has caused you to hurt. Even if you know that they didn’t really mean it, it will hurt. It’s just words. It’s just a roll of the eyes. It’s just a meaningless, thoughtless, action. But it still hurts badly. No matter how much you try to console yourself and convince yourself otherwise, it will pain you. It will hurt you. More than anything else in the world. It’s always the littlest things that will hurt you the most.

3. Don’t react.

When you get a paper cut and you don’t realise it, the sudden rush of sharp pain will cause you to jump up and down, tears in your eyes. You will probably lose control of yourself. Even the most controlled of us will lose ourselves for at least a split second, allowing the slightest whisper of a gasp or moan to escape from their lips. Then you realise it is a teeny tiny paper cut.

When something causes you to hurt, your first instinct is to react to it so that it’ll soothe your pain. The problem is, we tend to see the whole picture standing right in front of it and by the time you realise that it’s not that big a deal, you’ve already reacted (sometimes we overreact), and it’s too late. Give yourself time to think over things and don’t react immediately without looking at the full picture.

4. It’s going to keep hurting, but it’ll heal.

After the initial thunderstorm of pain passes, it begins to fade. The pain slowly and gradually subsides and after a reasonable amount of time you don’t feel it anymore. Just because you don’t see the paper cut on your skin anymore doesn’t mean you don’t remember the pain you went through, it just means that you’ve healed. It won’t affect you from touching another bundle of papers now, will it?

When anything that happens hurts you, do your best to hold on to the fact that one day this will all be gone. It will heal. Endure the pain, and do your best to soothe it. But don’t let it take over you and crash. It will hurt badly – that’s the way life has been designed, so to speak, but that pain will slowly fade away. You will be able to recover. It’s going to hurt, but it will also heal.

5. When something bad happens, something good will follow.

That paper cut and the pain it caused is surely a good enough excuse to sit on the couch, curling up with a good book (or watching old reruns for those of you who are TV addicts.) for the rest of the day with bowls of ice-cream. And chocolate. Don’t forget chocolate.

“After April Showers, May Flowers.”

To shoot an arrow with a bow, you’ve got to pull it back first. When life pulls you back, it just means it’s going to launch you into something great.

Catch you later!

Niru ❤