It was a perfect evening.
I got a paper cut.
Everything was simply wonderful. I was just organising my otherwise extremely cluttered desk. A loose sheet of paper just happened to be lying about within a bundle of other random sheets. It just happened to target my finger. I just happened to get a paper cut.
An extremely painful paper cut, I might add. After a whole lot of wincing and moans of absolute agony, I sat back and reflected on those five minutes. I realised that I had learnt more important lessons in those minutes than I had in my day to day life.
1. Never underestimate.
It’s just a sheet of paper, isn’t it? How much harm could it cause? Newsflash! – it feels like a lightning bolt has passed through your body while an elephant was stomping all over you when it inflicts a paper cut on you. It’s something I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy.
It’s very easy to judge.
He should have done it this way, she should have done it that way. Until you put yourself in that position though, you will never really understand. Appearances are often deceptive. You can go around with your head held up high and someone’s going to kick you in the shin to take you down. Don’t let yourself fall for it. Never underestimate what a person can do to you. You have no idea.
2. It’s the littlest things that hurt the most.
That paper cut is practically nothing when you look at it – nothing, that is, but a superficial wound that just caused you to experience tremendous throbbing pain that you can’t even begin to explain. (Sarcasm intended.)
Everyone has gone through this sometime or the other. When a few words or a simple action has caused you to hurt. Even if you know that they didn’t really mean it, it will hurt. It’s just words. It’s just a roll of the eyes. It’s just a meaningless, thoughtless, action. But it still hurts badly. No matter how much you try to console yourself and convince yourself otherwise, it will pain you. It will hurt you. More than anything else in the world. It’s always the littlest things that will hurt you the most.
3. Don’t react.
When you get a paper cut and you don’t realise it, the sudden rush of sharp pain will cause you to jump up and down, tears in your eyes. You will probably lose control of yourself. Even the most controlled of us will lose ourselves for at least a split second, allowing the slightest whisper of a gasp or moan to escape from their lips. Then you realise it is a teeny tiny paper cut.
When something causes you to hurt, your first instinct is to react to it so that it’ll soothe your pain. The problem is, we tend to see the whole picture standing right in front of it and by the time you realise that it’s not that big a deal, you’ve already reacted (sometimes we overreact), and it’s too late. Give yourself time to think over things and don’t react immediately without looking at the full picture.
4. It’s going to keep hurting, but it’ll heal.
After the initial thunderstorm of pain passes, it begins to fade. The pain slowly and gradually subsides and after a reasonable amount of time you don’t feel it anymore. Just because you don’t see the paper cut on your skin anymore doesn’t mean you don’t remember the pain you went through, it just means that you’ve healed. It won’t affect you from touching another bundle of papers now, will it?
When anything that happens hurts you, do your best to hold on to the fact that one day this will all be gone. It will heal. Endure the pain, and do your best to soothe it. But don’t let it take over you and crash. It will hurt badly – that’s the way life has been designed, so to speak, but that pain will slowly fade away. You will be able to recover. It’s going to hurt, but it will also heal.
5. When something bad happens, something good will follow.
That paper cut and the pain it caused is surely a good enough excuse to sit on the couch, curling up with a good book (or watching old reruns for those of you who are TV addicts.) for the rest of the day with bowls of ice-cream. And chocolate. Don’t forget chocolate.
“After April Showers, May Flowers.”
To shoot an arrow with a bow, you’ve got to pull it back first. When life pulls you back, it just means it’s going to launch you into something great.
Catch you later!